Is it time for an attitude adjustment? Are you feeling down, bummed, frustrated, etc.? It could be that a change in your attitude would make all of the difference in the world for you. You do not have to be in a negative state. That is a choice you have made and you can choose to change it. It is totally up to you. We get caught up in believing that we have no choice about how we feel but in reality we do. We make choices about how we feel and how we are going to react to something all of the time. We just are not always aware we are making those choices.
The fact is that we are always at choice. We just need to slow down and think about it. When something happens and we get an emotional reaction we can choose right then and there to feel differently about it. That may now always be easy but we do have the choice. We just have to make it.
Sometimes we get in a rut of feeling bad. We do not seem to have the energy to do anything least of all deciding we do not want to feel that way anymore. Sometimes there is a payoff to us for feeling miserable. We get attention from other people or we hope they feel sorry for us. None of those payoffs work to our advantage in the long run so try not to fall prey to them. Think about it. What is the payoff to you for feeling like you do? Is that what you really want?
So, if we are at choice about how we feel how do we change our feelings? It is not as hard as you might think.
Change your perception of what is happening. Look for the good or the "silver lining" and appreciate that. Write down all of the things you are grateful for. Sometime that helps you change your perspective about what is going on. Hang out with some upbeat people. Usually their attitude rubs off on you. Do not feel sorry for yourself. Think of all the positives in your life. Think of a specific time when you were really happy. Capture the feelings and make them really strong in you. Now move around and shake that state off and then try to get it back again. Practice this until you can call those great feeling up at will. Get busy doing something for someone else. It is hard to be down when you are thinking of others.
If you have tried a couple of these things while you were reading this you are probably already feeling better. Try them all and then choose the ones that work best for you.
About the Author:
Lynn Banis PhD, MCC is known as America's High Performance Coach. She specializes in helping executives and entrepreneurs make the most of their opportunities and potential. Her years of working with small and large businesses has given her a depth of knowledge that is invaluable to her clients. You can reach her at http://www.discoverypointcoaching.com or lynn
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